Dear Readers In the recent months, I have been very busy and did not blog most of last year, 2017. I have my own challenges and private life, and had to focus on more pressing issues and focused on helping others, privately, and not blogging and shielding my Aura. Despite the more than half a […]
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Hello Dear Readers 🙂
I’ve been very quiet online lately, not really blogging much and only communicating privately with friends etc online, staying very focused inwardly on my own personal progress and evolution and healing. In this “soul searching” that’s been occurring within myself totally naturally and organic like, I’ve gotten a lot of answers as well as a lot of questions. I’ve been thinking about this particular topic very heavily the past few days and I think it’s well worth the share to share with all of you. Maybe I can give you all a different perspective on what spiritual wounds are all about and what it takes to heal from things on a spiritual level.
For me, in order to understand things I like to use comparisons and scenarios in my head. Something that’s relatable and easy to grasp and understand.
As a nurse I realize the dedication and focus it takes to heal from a physical wound. Let’s say hypothetically that a person ran me over with their car. In this action I’m wounded and my ability to use my legs and walk was affected by this action by this person. My legs physically and structurally are fine, but it takes me years of physical therapy and training to regain the skill that came so naturally to me before because of a neurological issue in the brain, in a way setting me back in that sense to the beginning and I would have to start all over. Again, we’re talking HYPOTHETICAL here.
In this scenario, I would have to make an active decision to do the work for myself to heal. I would have to go to physical therapy, occupational therapy etc to regain the strength and skill I had before this scenario to get back to where I was. There are many people that go that road. There’s also the other road, the seemingly easier one, that instead of focusing on how I’m going to heal, focuses on why my ability to walk was taken away in the first place. SO many people go that route, and instead of going in the “action” stage they become stuck in the “blame” and “question” and “why me” stage. They think they’re doing themselves justice but really, in all reality they’re just treading water and wasting their own time trying to ask themselves these questions. Regardless of the answers to these things the bottom line is the same: You need to do the work if you want to get back to your original state before you were “interfered” with. That truth is the same regardless of the reason why what happened to you happened in the first place. You’re LETTING THEM WIN, by focusing on those things instead of focusing on your healing. Your focus needs to be INWARD, like a brilliant light of truth within yourself.
So, with this same scenario in mind, is it not safe to say that SPIRITUAL wounds that affect us in the same devastating way doesn’t take the same amount of dedication, will power, focus, tenacity and strength to heal from? Is it not essentially the SAME THING, in my case especially, walking down the road not hurting anyone and someone comes up and hypothetically hits me with their car? Is what I’m trying to heal from spiritually, at the root of it the same thing?
Let’s say you are working with a child that comes from an abusive home, whether it was for an extended period of time or not. At SOME point in this child’s life, things went against them in the worst way possible. Maybe they were physically abused, sexually abused, mentally/emotionally abused, maybe all of the above. When these things happen to anyone it’s horrible, but when it happens to a child it’s inconceivable. It’s beyond my ability to comprehend. And I can’t help but wonder so many times when I look at the people who carry out these horrible acts against these innocent children, how did they get from being a child themselves to having so much evil within them. Within their essence, their very soul at the root of it. Are people SO disconnected to the spiritual world anymore, and to God and the angels, and their own inner child and their twin soul and their own heart that these things not only are common, but statistically happen something like every 11 minutes of every hour, of every day, of every week, of every month and of every year, like clock work. And that’s just the things that are reported. Think about what the numbers would look like if you could somehow count in the unreported ones. Maybe something like every 30 seconds or so instead of every 11 minutes. It’s beyond my capacity to understand such cruelty in the world. Absolutely mind boggling.
As a child, we’re innately connected to the spirit world. We don’t have the issues that adults do at that point in our lives. Adults THINK and are UNSURE, children FEEL and KNOW. I wouldn’t wish what I went through on my worst enemy… But regardless of how horrible it was, it was the biggest lesson of my life so far. And I was taught that lesson at such a very young age. It literally put a halt in a way, a stop on my essence for YEARS, or at least me being connected to it…. on my spiritual identity and what made me me, to my conscious mind anyway before I even had the chance to learn who I really was in this life. It hasn’t been until recently like I said, the passed 7 to 8 months that I’m really starting to learn who I am and what makes me me. But, the major lesson that I learned through all of this was who I am SPIRITUALLY. I’m not talking about specifics or anything, I’m talking about my very essence of my soul. Considering what I went through, I could’ve so easily let the light of my soul become dimmer and dimmer and dimmer. And don’t get me wrong, it was always there but after what happened was over it was flickering for years. Some days it was on, other days I was so very disconnected to the world (I CHOSE to do that, it was too painful sometimes to connect) that I was literally just walking around blank. There’s a lot from that time in my life that’s very fuzzy, I honestly don’t remember a lot of it after it was all exposed and over.
The bottom line is this: The more POTENTIAL you have as a child to be spiritually powerful and a threat to the evil of the world, the more the evil of the world will try and break you before you have a chance to realize your potential. If you’re “unreachable” meaning it can’t control you directly, or you’re not open to doing evil things and are more in tune with the positive, then it will try and use OTHER PEOPLE around you, other things to try and control you and interfere with your life.
So, keeping up with that same scenario and comparing this to a physical wound, I’ve had to put many many years of work in trying to find my “spiritual ability to walk” again. I had so much to bounce back from. What I’ve been working on healing weakened me spiritually to the point where I almost left the planet entirely, literally, and it wasn’t until the passed 7 to 8 months that I was ready to make a change within myself and heal these things. In all honesty I felt for many many years like the universe turned its’ back on me, the spiritual world especially, and so there was no point in allowing myself to remain connected spiritually to anything. I was so severely blocked in every way for the passed 20 years of my life that I didn’t even understand where my emotions and everything were coming from. I just thought that “this is how it’s going to be” for my whole life.
I thought it was difficult for me back then being disconnected to everything. But it’s SO much harder being connected to everything again spiritually because I’m relearning everything that I knew back then before I was interfered with and almost wiped out completely. You see what I mean? Believe me when I say, it takes the SAME amount of strength to heal from these things as it does a physical wound. It’s a daily routine and a daily practice to STAY POSITIVE and FOCUSED on my healing. I owe it to myself. It is a spiritual right that we all have that God gives us, to be free of these things.
There’s SO much in my life to be thankful for. And I’m constantly supported and surrounded by positive energy and love, from both the spirit world and in an Earthly way. What’s even more amazing is that I’m aware of it now. I’m truly blessed and I thank God every single day for the strength to get through all of this and finally be at the point of being ready to HEAL and REUNITE with myself. With what makes me me.
Things are evolving just the way they should be 🙂
Believe me when I tell you, there is A LOT more to come. 😉
I’m sending you all major LOVE and LIGHT and HEALING FOCUS….
I need to get some rest now… I hope you all have a wonderful day 🙂
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Hello Dear Readers 😉
This article is not part of the 3-article series I’m working on, but I suddenly felt all of this love energy around me coming from my grandfather right after I made a tribute post to him on my personal Facebook about 20 minutes ago. He is ALWAYS around, helping and guiding me and is a constant presence, but sometimes his presence has more power behind it and today it’s especially strong. I felt inspired to maybe help some of you who wish to have contact with loved ones of your own that are in spirit but have blocks, or some kind of energy “bottle necking” that’s stopping you from making contact. There is no exact science to this, and each person and relationship is individual. All I can do is tell you all my own story and maybe you can find some inspiration and helpful infos within it. 🙂
The key to this sort of contact is about FEELING, not THINKING. You need to allow yourself to open up energetically through your heart chakra, like an energy beacon. The more open your heart chakra is the more open your perception will be. The third eye chakra is of importance as well obviously, but they all need to be working in harmony with each other. Everything needs to be working together like a circuit on a machine. Just like a braker box. Your heart chakra is the “centre” of it all and connects everything with everything else. Without that it’s hopeless to have any sort of connection. What people fail to realize is your heart chakra is kind of like your energetic “telephone”, not just with the spirit world but with the living as well. And if you’re a person that has a tendency to be blocked energetically, or shielded whether conscious or not, you are not going to be making OR receiving any calls. You will have a “dead phone line” if you will, not serving its purpose and simply existing, not functioning. I know this because that’s what I had for 20 years and only recently, less than 6 months, my blocks finally began to clear and contact was made possible with my grandfather again. He passed when I was 8 turning 9 and it’s so hard for me to believe that he’s been gone 20 years already. I’m so thankful that God let me have him in my life even for the short amount of time I had him. In those 4 years that I was living with him he gave me more than I could’ve ever asked for and I totally count myself as one of the lucky ones to even have experienced that kind of love and protection. And like I said, he’s still protecting and helping me constantly and will always be there for me. That kind of “heart connection” transcends all spiritual planes, all time and space and death is NOT an end to those things.
Through the years prior to my spiritual “awakening and connecting” if you will, there were always signs all over. The main way he would use to communicate with me was dream time. Whenever things were rough or I was having issues, or he sensed that I needed to see him he would show himself in my dreams. I remember vividly, about 9 years ago I had 3 dreams with him in a row one week and they were TOTALLY vivid (my dreams always are but these for some reason were especially) and he was still alive in these dreams…..it was just everyday life the way it was in my waking life, but it was totally different because he was still here with me. Through the years, typically right before I would fall asleep I would feel this tingling sensation on my leg……that was him letting me know he’s still around although I didn’t realize that until I started to open up spiritually.
When things finally started to open up for me, which was like I said about 5 1/2 months ago that’s when things started to get very strong as far as the energetic perception. I remember one day, I was parked in a bank parking lot avoiding going home because my ex fiance and I were fighting constantly at that point. I was chatting with a friend earlier that day who happens to be a psychic medium and my grandfather came through to her as we were chatting. She became SO emotional so quickly she had to step out for a bit because she felt how intense the love was he has for me…..I was totally floored. When she came back she told me that “He says to relax and let him hug you”…..so I relaxed, as much as was possible in that moment, and then suddenly I felt this tingle on my leg…..that’s when it all clicked with me what that tingling on my leg was for all these years!!! So later that day as I was sitting in the bank parking lot sobbing trying to deal with what had just occurred. I was just talking out loud to him and being totally honest. I apologized for blocking him all these years and I didn’t mean to, and I’m so thankful that he didn’t give up trying to make contact and it’s totally different now. Then suddenly I felt this EXTREME warmth and calming around my heart and I stopped crying instantly, and it was totally replaced with love and serenity.
Then when I was going through trying to decide whether or not to leave my ex fiance he was totally present and helping. One night I had this dream where I was in a house with 2 other guys. I had my tarot cards sitting on the coffee table in the middle of the room out of the box. The cards just kept flying off the deck at random, and one of the guys asked me why they were doing that. I told him “Oh, it’s my grandfather. Whenever he wants to communicate with me he uses the cards.” He said “Oh okay” and walked away and I walked into the kitchen. A few minutes later he ran back into the kitchen holding the ’10’ card and super energized and excited, practically jumping up and down saying “It did it again!!” I wasn’t sure why he was so excited about it but I just took the card from him and went and sat in the other room with the 2 of them. When I sat down we started to discuss some things, and then I remember FEELING my grandfather standing behind me…like he was standing next to my bed as I was having this dream. In the dream I started to turn my head to the right because I felt him behind me and was about to look at him and my dog started howling and it woke me up. Out of curiosity I went to my tarot card book to look at the meaning of the ’10’ card. It was totally my answer that I was going back and forth about as to whether or not to leave my fiance.
I have two different tarot card decks so I checked the meaning in both of them. In my angel cards deck this was what the “10” card meant:
10: The Wheel (Archangel Michael)
The angels sent you this card because of positive changes occurring in your life. Expect and enjoy beneficial opportunities as they present themselves. This is an optimal time to make big and small changes. Take the leap with knowledge that everything will work out well for you. Old blocks are lifting, and now everything moves forward quickly. If recent events shook your faith, you’ll now see how they were actually positive for you. Rapid advancement is likely now. Good luck. A happy accident. Balanced karma. A miracle. A twist of fate. Destiny. Archangel Michael is the supreme protecting angel who walks beside you through changes, giving you courage, strength and self-confidence. Call upon Michael whenever you’d like specific guidance about your next steps, especially if it’s connected to your life purpose or spiritual path.
This was what the other deck’s “10” card meant:
10: The Wheel of Fortune
The circle of life, and of fate, spins on this card of changes. Below the wheel lurks the serpent of deep, dark times. Above it is the sphinx of airy freedom and insight. This reminds us that fortune can turn either way, but both have much to teach us. Jupiter, planet of golden luck, is also linked to this card. (My zodiac sign, Sagittarius, is also ruled by Jupiter)
The wheel of fortune is turning now, and moving you away from the people and the situations that have been hurting your heart. And, tempting though it is to cling to familiar feelings and faces, even ones that are bad for you, the strongest message of this card is one of letting go, and looking forward. You should also be leaving past love mistakes behind and trying a new love-style. This is one that adds self-respect to an element of mystery, and stops you rushing into requests for commitment before either side is ready.
Change is natural, sometimes unstoppable – so it’s good to deal with it. Welcoming it puts you in a stronger position. For at last difficult times are now being left behind as you spin in a new direction, towards new opportunities. Please, open your mind, and your heart, to change. The biggest mistake you can make is to cling too tightly to old, safe ideas – you will miss exciting new ones.
And, if all of this wasn’t enough of a push for me just to make SURE that I heard the message, true to my grandfather’s style……I had a photo of my ex and I hanging on the wall right next to my nightstand. After I read the meaning of the cards in the books I walked in front of my nightstand and was facing the photo and then suddenly, it went FLYING off the wall and landed behind the nightstand. He was totally clear that the way I was treated was NOT okay with him and he finally had contact with me again, and is using it fully to let me know that, lolol 🙂
I hope that this gave some of you inspiration for your own spiritual journeys and to help you if you feel like you’re on the verge of giving up hope for connecting with your loved ones. I can tell you first hand that they’re always present, we just have to be willing to be aware of it.
I’m sending you all major LOVE and LIGHT and HEART CENTRED FOCUS 😉
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Hello Dear Readers 🙂
As I posted on my Lightworkers page on Facebook, this article is going to be about spiritual guidance that I received recently that led me to uncover a wealth of infos about my spiritual path, my twin soul journey and my spiritual truth. This is the first of a 3-part series of articles that will be published in the upcoming days 🙂 I’m breaking it up this way because there’s way too much infos to put into one article.
This was my dog I had when I lived with my ex fiance in Texas. I was working night shift as a private duty nurse in home health at the time, 7pm to 7 am. Every morning when I would come home my dogs would come running to the door to greet me. That morning though, 2 of my dogs ran to the door to greet me and then a few seconds later, Ace comes into the dining room to try to get to me and dragging his back legs. He couldn’t walk and was paralyzed from his hips down. There was a very specific and particular whine that he was making that was unmistakable. He was clearly in agony and an extreme amount of pain. I instantly started to panic and my ex and I got him in the car and rushed him to an emergency vet. They of course told us that they couldn’t do anything for him and referred us to a vet that specialized in this kind of issue for dogs. This vet was 4 hours away from where we lived. So we got in the car again and rushed him 4 hours away to this vet. They evaluated him for about 10 minutes and then rushed him into surgery. It turned out he had herniated discs in his back which caused a blood clot to press on his spinal cord causing paralysis. They did the surgery and about a week later he came home. The vet taught me how to check his deep tendon reflexes in case this was ever an issue again. 2.5 months after the surgery I was getting up for the day one morning and I heard that same unmistakable whine come out of his mouth. I knew instantly what it meant, that he was facing the same issue. I checked his reflexes and sure enough I was right. Typically when you check a deep tendon reflex for dogs, you pick up one of their feet and bend their toes, kind of like trying to make a fist with their foot when placing it on the ground. If their deep tendon reflexes are in tact the dog will automatically correct the position of their foot. When I checked his he didn’t do anything to his foot, he just left it in that position. I took him to his regular vet that was local and my ex had to go to work. They did x-rays on my dog’s back and in a totally different part of his spine 3 more discs herniated. I couldn’t afford to do another surgery for him, and even if I could his vet told me that this was going to be a recurring issue for him and he would just have surgery after surgery until he was eventually crippled and in agony all the time. I had to make the decision myself to have him euthanized. This was the only thing that was merciful to do. I refused to leave the room and insisted that I be with him when they did it. I hugged him and kissed him and told him how sorry I was and that I’ll always love him. He licked my face, laid his head in my lap and then it was over. It took me no less than 6 months before I could even think about him without breaking down in tears. It seriously took something out of me for a while, like I didn’t feel whole. My dogs have ALWAYS been like my children and I feel like each of them have a part of me. They made a paw print of his paw for me in clay and I got his ashes. It’s a little display I’ve got in honor of him on my bookshelf…..the collar he was wearing, his ashes and his paw print.
So, let’s fast forward to the now. About 2 and a half weeks ago Ace came to me in a dream. When I woke up I was very confused by what occurred in the dream, and everyone I told about it just kept saying either “You still feel guilty for having to put him down” or “He’s just letting you know he’s still around”…..In this dream him and I were speaking telepathically. His voice was very deep but soothing, and he kept telling me to light him on fire. I didn’t want to do this and kept refusing his request but he was so totally persistent that finally I did. That was the door finally opening for me to recognize my cosmic counterpart, and start to see all of these parallels between him and I. Right when I moved back to New York it occurred to me then about 3 months ago to look at the photos but I kept talking myself out of it. I still had a lot of healing to do at that point and a lot of work within myself. I wasn’t ready yet.
A couple of days ago I was chatting privately with a friend and I was showing her some evidence photos that I’ve compiled and all that. She asked me if I minded if she calculated my birthdate and his birthdate with the Mayan calendar. You do this to see how compatable your energies are with another person. She did the calculations and was TOTALLY shocked with what she saw. Him and I are EXACTLY the same…..we’ve got the same break down and the same tone and everything. She told me that she’s never seen that in front of her before and him and I have totally the same energy. This is the most interesting part though: When reading my OWN calculations that she put together, it says that my spirit guide is “the white dog”….Instantly when I read that the light bulb went off and I knew EXACTLY what that dream was!!! It was my spirit guide opening the door for me to finally recognize the other part of myself, the male side of my energy and soul.
This was so totally precise and spot on to what I was uncovering the passed few weeks in regards to my twin soul journey that it completely floored me. One thing is completely and totally for certain: God works in fantastic, marvelous and mysterious ways. This is it for now 🙂 I will be writing more tonight and tomorrow for the rest of the articles 😉
Sending you all major LOVE and LIGHT and TWIN SOUL FOCUS 😉
All we are made of is stardust and light
Look inside yourself at the heavenly sight
We all have the power and magic within us to see
God and our Angels and the powers that be
We’re all magical and mystical
Made of light and gold
Sit back and relax
And feel the magic unfold
Stop thinking, stop forcing
And let it naturally flow
We all have the right to see where it’ll go
The magic we all hold in our hearts and our minds
Are the keys to understanding our soul, our own divine
Our spiritual heritage
Is God’s gift to us all
So embrace it, believe it, and allow it to call
To call you home while living and breathing
All you need to do
Is start believing
Copyrighted: Danielle Perrone – Lightworkers555 2017 Channeled Message
Hello Dear Readers 🙂
I’ve wanted to write this for a long time. Life has been happening so fast and in total full steam ahead style that I haven’t had time until today so I’m sorry for the delay.
I was engaged to be married to a guy who I was completely and totally head over heels for (until I wasn’t anymore). We were together for 8 years and were even trying to get pregnant and start a family at one point. When I said yes to his marriage proposal and agreed to wear that ring on my finger, I had EVERY intention of following through with that because it was what I thought I wanted. I saw in my head visions of him and I on Christmas morning with our children. I saw family parties and family game nights and birthdays and holidays and baby bottles and everything I always wanted out of a marriage and a life with the person you love more than anything in the world. But that’s what the issue was. I loved him more than I loved myself at the time and was totally blinded by it. I didn’t see the clear ultimate truth of the situation, which was that he was controlling and mentally and emotionally abusive for the entire 8 years we were together.
I had an abusive childhood and the only stable and loving father figure I ever had in my life was my grandfather. He died when I was 9 and that’s when the abuse began and continued for 2 years until I finally broke and spoke up. A part of me was unfortunately attracted to my ex fiance because of the abusive quality he had as a result of the abuse in my childhood. I didn’t allow myself to admit it until this past year. Who wants to admit to themselves that they accepted that kind of treatment from a person? And furthermore, who wants to admit that they not only accepted that kind of treatment but wanted to build a life with him in spite of that?
The extent of how controlling and mentally manipulative he was didn’t come into clear sight to me until I made the decision to finally try to heal from my childhood abuse. The closer I got to my goal which was to be healed the worse he got. My ex was completely and totally controlling, manipulative and emotionally twisting towards me. It wasn’t fully clear until I started to take the control back from him. I told him it wasn’t going to work and we needed to go our separate ways. Two days later he called me begging me to work it out with him. I told him okay, but if we were going to do that we were going to start from the ground up. The foundation of our relationship was what the issue was. He became so comfortable with treating me the way he always did that he had no idea there was anything wrong with it. So, I told him if he wants to work on things then fine, but it will be on my terms. I moved out for a month until he found a place and then when he moved out I moved back into our apartment. The day he was leaving I was very stressed because the friend I was staying with at the time needed me to get out that day and not a day later. Her and her ex girlfriend were working on things and broke up for a while, but my friend saw the spare room that I’ve been staying in as a way to get her ex girlfriend back. She was totally rushing me and had no consideration for the fact that my entire life was upside down at that point.
At this point in my life all the people I was surrounded by had NO consideration for me. They wanted me around for the things they needed from me, yes. But if they had everything they needed from me at the time they were nowhere to be found if I needed anything. Like my friends who wanted me around to be their emotional punching bag or my ex who wanted me around to clean and cook for him and give him sex whenever he wanted (whether I wanted to or not) or take care of the dogs or do the laundry. He never wanted me for ME. He wanted me for what he could get from me.
So then, once I started on my journey of spiritual awakening and awareness, that’s when it became clear to me. The more I became in tune with my true purpose of being on this planet and the more I attracted more positivity and self empowerment the further away from me all of these people became. There was a definite distance between me and them, way before the physical distance was even there. They couldn’t handle the fact that I was taking the control back from them that they had for all these years. Because of the degree of controlling at the end that I was receiving from my ex I had to leave full movie style because I knew he wouldn’t accept my decision and wouldn’t allow me to leave. I left the ring and a note on the dining room table. My mom flew down and did the drive up with me. I was the only one driving because her driver’s license isn’t active, but it was nice to have someone there with me anyway. I packed my entire life in my little Toyota Corolla. Myself, my mother and my two dogs in tow, we were on our way back to my hometown to build a new life for ourselves.
The picture above was the night before we left and hit the road 🙂
Once my ex realized what happened and that I was gone, he sent me these videos and websites to look at:
Healing the Emotionally Abusive Marriage: http://www.focusonthefamily.com/lifechallenges/abuse-and-addiction/understanding-emotional-abuse/healing-the-emotionally-abusive-marriage
“Yes, Abusers Can Change!” End Spousal Abuse and Save Your Marriage: http://www.preventabusiverelationships.com/spousal_abuse_tx.php
Stop Telling Wives to Have Sex When They Don’t Feel Like It: http://www.mommyish.com/2014/09/29/marital-pressure-to-have-sex/
When Pleasing Him is Hurting You: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uu6WOV5uNRw
When Pleasing Him is Hurting You (Part 2): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uu6WOV5uNRw
It killed me to see these things. One night before we broke up I told him that the way he speaks to me is emotional and mental abuse. He became irate and we got into a fight about it. I told him after I got these websites/videos in the messages he sent me that sometimes there are certain things between people that you can’t get passed. But now even only 2 months out of the break up, I’m so thankful that I had the courage to finally take a stand and take back the control over my life. The “friends” that I discussed earlier were also very upset with me for leaving. They said they “didn’t deserve this treatment”, meaning me taking a stand. It’s incredible how angry people get when you finally have strength and courage and say “absolutely no more of this treatment”.
This was incredibly stressful for everyone involved. It was the most stressful on my dogs though I think. I had them boarded at a local veterinary office for 6 weeks. It took me that long to find a place that I could have them both. I would go a few times a week to see them and walk them. Every time I had to bring them back in there it felt like a piece of me died. But I did my best to keep moving forward and keep the positive vibes as much as I possibly could, and remind myself that this is only TEMPORARY and nothing that’s worth having happens overnight.
In the meantime I was working like a mad woman trying to find a home for us and land a job for me. I’m licensed in my practice and so I was waiting on my license transferring from the state I left to the state I moved to. It takes 6 weeks for licenses to transfer. Just being away from all of the negativity though I felt myself not being suffocated anymore. There was an automatic result of empowerment and independence and security that came along with the change of energies around me. I had some similar energies around me in different places here also, but I recognized them WAY easier because of what I had been through and removed myself from them immediately once I recognized them. I started to feel whole again and safe and secure. That feeling means everything. It was such a foreign feeling to me.
My ex of course was trying everything he could in the meantime to regain control over me. One of the first things I did when I got here was changed my number and only a very select few have it. I didn’t want him to have any way of contacting me but he still tried. He would message me on Facebook messenger and I wouldn’t answer. He had his friends contact me telling me to contact him and I wouldn’t answer. And then when none of that worked he called my MOTHER and asked her to ask me for money for the last of the bills. I paid an entire month of rent before I left to give him time to figure out what he was going to do. But the “money” is just code for “control” to him. It always was. I was beyond livid that he would go that far as to try to get my mother involved. I don’t know why it surprised me because he was desperate and always looked at me as his property. I blocked him and all of his family and friends from my Facebook and my mother did the same. Within an hour of me doing that I started getting emails from him because that was the only mode of contact he had left. Then things were quiet for a couple of weeks.
My perception has been opening up a ton since being here. The less negative energies that are around me the more aware of things I am because my perception is no longer clouded by them. Please don’t misunderstand though, there’s no way to get completely away from negative energies. They’re everywhere. But I’m way more able to sense them now. I am very in tune and always had precognitive dreams or have dreams that are “information” and not really dreams at all. You’re the most spiritually aware when you’re asleep. A few days ago I had a couple of dreams and I was in the room when these conversations were happening but nobody saw me. It was my ex having conversations with people, saying “She left me for no reason”, “I should’ve seen it coming”, “She took my dogs away”, “She lost her mind”….I woke up livid. I knew that these dreams were legitimate pieces of information given my history of accuracy with my dreams. I can’t tell you how many times my dreams would come to fruition and it freaked me out when I was a child because it didn’t make sense to me why I was able to do that and foresee events happening. But now as an adult it’s a very useful skill to have. There is a complete and total sense of injustice around this entire situation. I was the one that took a stand and was abused. And instead of taking the “victim” stance I took the driver’s seat back. And now he has the balls to go around and tell people that I left for no reason??
When I woke up from these dreams the life was totally sucked out of me. I was exhausted when I woke up and was totally drained and energetically tapped. I’ve learned how to shield myself and replenish my energies. I haven’t had anymore dreams though in a couple of days and hopefully there won’t be anymore. But if there are, just know that I’m ready and prepared. This song explains it perfectly:
“Stop pressurin me, just stop pressurin me, stop fuckin with me, make me wanna scream”
This song totally resonates with this whole entire experience and did way before I made the decision to leave him. That’s the way I felt. Totally manipulated and the story was always twisted around and the truth was NEVER discussed or talked about.
This story that I like to call my life is still a work in progress, so stay tuned. 🙂 Things are starting to settle down now so I’ll be able to write a lot more.
Goodbye for now dear friends 🙂
Hello Dear Readers
I apologize for the delay in my writing. After I posted that I was going to be publishing this article some things happened that had me delayed. I’m in an incredibly transitional time in my life and things have been going up and down. Sometimes it’s little waves and sometimes it’s a tsunami, and last night was for sure a tsunami and had me distracted.
Anyway, like I said on my post on Facebook some events yesterday that transpired before the tsunami type of issue I had last night had me thinking. As a nurse, you write “care plans” for your patients. In it is long term goals and short term goals. Here’s an example of a care plan:
This is essentially a “skeleton” of what a nursing care plan would look like. Now, please keep in mind that you must remain flexible when discussing the “spiritual health” of a person as far as time frames go, so they will be a bit different.
Nursing has come a long way as far as acknowledging the spiritual health of a person, please don’t misunderstand me. They even teach classes in nursing programs now solely dedicated to the spiritual health of a person. What they say though in these classes is extremely vague and I feel doesn’t exactly tap into the soul in its’ entirety, especially when discussing the health of that soul (health meaning “wholeness” of course). Here’s an example of the kind of “spiritual care plans” I’m talking about:
So as you can see, this is NOT an exact science at all. It all has to do with looking within ourselves, to discover how we connect with our soul the most. This is not a one size fits all situation when talking about these things. And I also realize that I didn’t put a time frame on the second goal. I did that purposely. There are some people who open up very fast as far as their chakras and energy bodies (aura) goes, and other people never get there. It all depends on the individual.
Here is some imagery to help you understand what I’m talking about as far as the chakras and different bodies go:
In my “spiritual care plan” that I created the issue was a blocked heart chakra. The heart chakra has to do with love and healing. So, if you’ve got a blocked heart chakra it means that you have healing to do about something. That can mean a bad relationship, the death of a loved one, abuse, etc. The “implementations” that I put on the care plan ALL assist in a healing way. Meditation also helps tremendously when trying to assess the problem that is causing your heart chakra to be blocked.
What I envision is whatever the issue is for the person as far as a spiritual aspect goes I want it to be addressed the way physical issues are addressed in typical nursing care plans. We’re talking about the soul now.
This was a very brief and to the point article 🙂
I hope you all have a blessed day, and I’m sending you all major LOVE and LIGHT and HEALING!!!! 🙂